The cause of so many headaches - undeclared expectations.
You think I'll do this, and are frustrated when I don't.
I think you'll do that, and am disappointed when you don't.
There's nothing wrong with having expectations, its only natural in friendships and relationships to expect more from a friend. If not what makes a friend any different from the next random person walking down the street?
The problem is always when we do not make our expectations known. Why don't we? Because none of us want to come across as bossy or demanding.
Big mistake, as it only results in one person being oblivious and the other person hurt.
4 comments:
I was just in that exact situation!
What if we did make our expectations known, everything went well for a while, and then the other person went back to how things were?
Wai Wai
Hmmm, then the person should be gently reminded in a non-accusing way OR perhaps review your expectations and see if there could be a better compromise.
Sigh. It'll take me the whole day to tell you the whole story. :)
Anyway, welcome back Shelby! ;)
Wai Wai
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